The gift giving, card writing and signing of the Valentine’s Day card: Guide for guys in new relationships.
Just met, you like her but it’s very new.
The gift: Definitely an easy one, because chocolate and/or flowers are perfect and very sweet. You must get a card, something cute and funny will do.
The message: A simple “Wishing you a happy Valentine’s day,”
Signing the card: - I am (so) _______ (glad) we met, Bob
Looking forward to getting to know you, Bob
Hugs and kisses, Bob
New relationship 3-6 months, you are exclusive (you really like her)
The gift: This gift should show some thought, because it is the first Valentine’s Day. Pay attention to what she likes, mentions in the weeks to come. It may be an accessory item, a handbag, scarf or silver jewelry with a stone or charm she likes or has special meaning to her. She will really think it sweet if you remember something she mentioned or saw while you were together. If all else fails these are the gifts that most women would like this season:
- Princess perfume by Vera Wang, classy and you will like it too.
- Leather cuff bracelets are totally in style and ones with a message that is personal to you/her is thoughtful. Sold in many mall shops.
- A spa/massage treatment is always a great gift, thoughtful and shows you care how hard she works. Popular spa’s are Bliss Spa, Sephora, Ulta offer spa treatments or look up local spa’s they usually run specials for the holiday.
The message:
- Write at least a paragraph about how you feel about her, how she makes you feel or whatever you are feeling at the time.
- This is the time to be vulnerable but if you are not ready for say “Love” you don’t have to.
Signing the card: You mean so much to me, Bob
So glad to be spending this day with you, Bob
Looking forward to more happy times with you, Bob
You are in my heart today and everyday, Bob
6-12 months, you are either in love, falling in love or already declared your love.
The gift:
- Since the holiday falls on Thursday, a weekend getaway is ideal. Bed and Breakfasts, Hotels and Ski Resorts have last minute deals, but there is nothing like preplanning.
- Pamper her with a romantic dinner and run a tub or hot tub if you can arrange it. Bring flowers and candy too, it decorates the room and makes it special.
- Jewelry is a safe bet here.
- Maybe a CD of music for a romantic evening. This is the perfect time to seal the deal guys; it’s Valentine’s Day and BECAUSE it is corny and cheesy tell her you love her. Secretly we love cheesy and sappy on Valentine’s Day if we are in love.
- Also you can bridge the “I am falling in love with you.” If you have not reached it just yet, (or if you are a wimp because nobody “thinks” they feel love for someone, this is one you KNOW.) but whatever, go at your own pace.
The message:
Spill it. You love this woman and you want to keep her indefinitely. A full paragraph with your heart racing with nervousness is what I am talking about. Trust me, the pay off will be worth it. If this is where you are with a woman showing it on Valentine’s Day is the only way to go. Even if she says she doesn’t care, DO NOT LISTEN. Just say it, most of us is no Shakespeare, women know, they don’t care how you say it, just that you do, and in this case write it too.
Signing the card: All my love, Bob
Love you, Bob (playful)
I love you with all my heart, Bob (serious)
Oh I forgot, I wanted to telling you that I love you, Bob
I love you and want you to be my wife, Bob (Just in case)
Whatever you do this Valentine’s Day with your new babe or your fiancé, have fun, laugh as much as you can, and let love in.
Copyright ©2008 Veronica Romm
